Category Archives: FAQ Help for Ex-Mormons

How can I reach my daughter who is being raised Mormon?

Do you have any advice? When I left Mormonism, my LDS wife divorced me and moved back home to Utah to live with her LDS family. My daughter who is now 8 is asking me to allow her to be baptized LDS. With everything that I know about Mormonism, I will never allow her to be baptized into the LDS Church, even though she is being raised by my wife and her several generation LDS family. I’m being called the “worst dad ever” even though all I’m doing is using LDS rules.   To counter what she has been learning in primary, I bought the primary books 4-7 which made me sick just reading them. But when I counter their claims out of the Bible, my daughter calls me a liar. What can I do? Continue reading How can I reach my daughter who is being raised Mormon?

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How can I Share my Faith with Mormons without getting into an Argument?

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HOW CAN I SHARE MY FAITH WITH MORMONS WITHOUT GETTING INTO AN ARGUMENT?

“Something funny happened today. Two young Mormon missionaries walked by our street for the second time asking to share their unique ‘message of salvation.’ I told them that I have known Jesus as my personal Savior since I was eight. They asked me a bunch of questions and said that they want to come back at a more convenient time. I said I would be willing to talk with them. However, I am not a confrontational person and I don’t particularly like debating, but since I keep seeing them and I knew your ministry could help, I agreed to talk with them again. What do you suggest I share that will not turn into an argument?” Continue reading How can I Share my Faith with Mormons without getting into an Argument?

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I’m frustrated! How can I get Through to Mormons?

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I’M FRUSTRATED! HOW CAN I GET THROUGH TO MORMONS?

“I’m discouraged.  To me, it just seems like there is NO WAY to reach Mormons for the real Gospel.  As an evangelical Christian, I do not want to slam my front door in their faces like some people do.  I really do want to talk to them, but not on their terms—only on my terms.

After all, the burden of proof lies with the one making the claim.  They must prove to me that the Book of Mormon is God’s inspired Scripture and that Joseph Smith was indeed a true Prophet of God.  They must prove to me that God was once a man and that men can become ‘gods.’  I have stayed awake at night trying to figure out a way to reach these people with convincing and powerful arguments from both the Bible and their own Book of Mormon. Yet, every time, regardless of whether they can answer my questions or prove their points, they always go back to bearing their ‘testimony’ and telling me that they ‘prayed’ about the Book of Mormon so they ‘KNOW’ it is true.  Perhaps you can give me insight into how I can break through their blindness with the real Truth of God’s Word.” Continue reading I’m frustrated! How can I get Through to Mormons?

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Our daughter is dating a Mormon, What can we do?

Wedding DressOUR DAUGHTER IS DATING A MORMON — What is the best way for a Christian parent to respond to this situation?

“We raised our children in a Christian home, but our 18 year old daughter is dating a Mormon who has convinced her to start meeting with Mormon missionaries. We are concerned she is thinking about becoming a Mormon, and we need information on how best to handle this situation.”

OUR RESPONSE:

We often receive inquiries from concerned parents whose son or daughter is dating a Mormon. What makes these situations more difficult than others is the emotional element that physical attraction and teenage/young adult insecurity plays into the equation.  When the emotions get involved as they do in a dating relationship, it is difficult for anyone to make objective decisions.  Thus, the Bible warns, “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” —Proverbs 4:23

Another factor that contributes to the complexity of this situation is the parental and teenage/young adult relationship.  When parents see their children heading in a direction that could have devastating affects, it is easy for the protective parental instinct to engage with a desire to “rescue” the child—regardless of whether the child is of age and capable of making life-choices.  A young adult approached with an authoritative parental attitude, may react with defiant rejection of all parental input (common in strong-willed children) or resentful compliance in which your daughter may give lip-service to your desires, without heart commitment.  Neither response yields the desired affect that would bring a child to maturity in her decision making capacity.  Continue reading Our daughter is dating a Mormon, What can we do?

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How can I witness to my Mormon husband without an argument?

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HOW CAN I WITNESS TO MY MORMON HUSBAND WITHOUT AN ARGUMENT?

“I have been married to a Mormon man for almost 9 years now. I am a committed Christian and I have never been Mormon. Before my husband and I were married, I made it very clear to him and his Mormon family that I would never convert to Mormonism. They have always accepted me with open arms. The haven’t tried to pressure me into anything. Continue reading How can I witness to my Mormon husband without an argument?

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Business and Political Alliances with Mormons

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BUSINESS AND POLITICAL ALLIANCESDoes Christian participation in Mormon financial or political alliances compromise the Christian faith? 

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS) is actively seeking ways to present itself to the public as another denomination within Christianity. One of the ways it is pursuing this goal is by encouraging Mormons to participate in business, political, and religious alliances with mainline Christian groups. When such invitations from Mormons are presented to evangelical Christians, it is often given in an attempt to gain legitimacy in Christian circles. When such occasions arise, what questions can we ask to evaluate whether or not these opportunities compromise the Christian faith? Continue reading Business and Political Alliances with Mormons

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Do Mormons accept the writings of Mormon leaders as authoritative in defining Mormon doctrine?

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DO MORMONS ACCEPT THE WRITINGS OF MORMON LEADERS AS AUTHORITATIVE IN DEFINING MORMON DOCTRINE? 

A MORMON CRITICISM:

“For members of the LDS Church, the only sources of absolute appeal for our doctrines are the Standard Works. In looking at your website, I couldn’t help but notice that none of the answers to the questions posed are resourced to the LDS Scriptures. If you are attempting to provide accurate information about the LDS Church, why not cite the LDS canon? Continue reading Do Mormons accept the writings of Mormon leaders as authoritative in defining Mormon doctrine?

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Is the “spirit” of Mormonism true?

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IS THE “SPIRIT” OF MORMONISM TRUE BECAUSE IT CONFESSES JESUS HAS COME IN THE FLESH? 

1 JOHN 4:2-3; 2 JOHN 7: “Hereby know ye the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God: And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist…. For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.”

– Do these passages prove that the “spirit” of Mormonism is true because it confesses Jesus has come in the flesh? Continue reading Is the “spirit” of Mormonism true?

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Don’t you believe the Holy Ghost answers prayer?

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ldsgirlpray.: DOES THE HOLY GHOST ANSWER PRAYER FOR THE BOOK OF MORMON TESTIMONY?

“I was browsing the Internet when I came across your site.  Sounds informative, but I have a question on this statement you made. In your article on Mormon Splinter Groups, the following question was asked: ‘Since all of these movements base their authority on the Book of Mormon and the Prophet Joseph Smith, how can a ‘testimony’ gained through praying about the Book of Mormon be sufficient to prove which church of all of these movements one should join?’  I am curious to know whether you believe in prayers being answered by God.  I don’t know if it would prove anything, but I believe God answers prayers, and if He said it was true then it must be true, and if He said it wasn’t then it is not true.  One thing I do believe in also is the Holy Ghost.  He is known as the Comforter, a Testifier.  If I can’t feel comfort, I don’t know how the Holy Ghost can get to me in helping to comfort me.  So, in this way, I do believe that the Spirit of God can communicate with our spirits through a feeling since we cannot see Him. What do you believe?” Continue reading Don’t you believe the Holy Ghost answers prayer?

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How can I leave Mormonism if it tears my marriage apart?

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Leaving Mormonism.:HOW CAN I LEAVE THE MORMON CHURCH IF IT TEARS MY MARRIAGE APART?

“I am presently a part of the LDS Church, but I was also raised a Jehovah’s Witness. Years ago, I was convinced that Jehovah’s Witnesses were in error, so I tried unsuccessfully to “fit in” at what are considered more “orthodox” churches. I even accepted Christ after leaving the Jehovah’s Witnesses, but I’ve always had doubts about my salvation, wondering if I should be doing something more to secure my salvation. It was while I was searching for a church that I became interested in the Mormon Church because these people seemed to take their faith seriously. I joined it and about four years ago, I met my present wife who was raised Mormon and is active in the Church. While I have come to feel the LDS Church is in error, based on my personal Scripture study and prayer, I am hesitant to leave it. Where will I go? How would leaving affect my marriage? How can I leave the Mormon Church and go to another one if it tears our marriage apart?Continue reading How can I leave Mormonism if it tears my marriage apart?

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How can I meet Ex-Mormons in my area?

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exldsmeetup.: HOW CAN I MEET EX-MORMONS IN MY AREA?

“I recently left the Mormon Church and I miss the fellowship I had with my friends and family in the Church. How can I meet other Ex-Mormons in my area who understand what I am going through?”

OUR RESPONSE:

Dear friend,

You must feel so lonely. It is hard to leave the LDS Church, not only because you lose the spiritual and emotional friends and family support you received in the Church, but also because you face many fears, doubts, and confusing thoughts as you work to reevaluate everything you had been taught as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The loss of this spiritual identity can be one of the hardest aspects of leaving to overcome. Continue reading How can I meet Ex-Mormons in my area?

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How to remove your name from the LDS Chuch’s membership records

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.:HOW TO REMOVE YOUR NAME FROM THE LDS CHURCH’S MEMBERSHIP RECORDS

If you want to have your name removed from the LDS Church’s membership records, you must make your letter strong and to the point.  Although some may feel that this type of approach is too harsh, we have learned that if you do not make it forceful in this manner, they will delay your request and harass you as to your reasons for leaving with the hopes of getting you to change your mind. We know it works, and anyone wanting to remove their name can use the following format and sample letter.  Many people are afraid to be this stern, but it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY!  Below is a copy of the cover information that one Ex-Mormon couple used to remove their names from the LDS Church’s records. They testified that when they used this format:

“We received a response before the 30 days were up and a letter stating that our names had been removed, but they wanted to make that sure we knew what we were doing because it would jeopardize our eternal salvation, and they would be more than happy to have us return to the church.  What a joke.  We are happy to be free at last!” Continue reading How to remove your name from the LDS Chuch’s membership records

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Blind fools! Why don’t you all come home?

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.:OUR RESPONSE TO A MORMON CONCERN: BLIND FOOLS! YOU HAD A TESTIMONY! WHY DON’T YOU ALL COME HOME?!”

“Blind faith, brain washing, catchy songs. You are all fools! Your ambivalent clichés on Mormonism are neither founded nor respected. Chuck, if you truly were at one time Mormon, why were you such a push over? Don’t you know part of the faith is to question the norm and challenge the truth? You tormented soul! Your angry and victimized tale is hardly proper indignation for a religion that didn’t bring you happiness.

I wonder how you managed to stay in as long as you did. Let me guess, the Christian faith has somehow brought happiness you could never find in being the “worker Bee” Mormon? Well, continue your fable life of blindness and enjoy your new faith.  Your slander and condemnation only strengthen the one and only true Church that has been brought forth in “these latter days!”

I cannot believe you would be so foolish as to imply that the Bible is the only true source of God over the Book of Mormon. How can you say, “A book! A book! I have a book and it contains the word of God!” on the one hand, but on the other, you denounce the latter-day miracles of its author? Where did you get that book in the first place? Was it not from the mouth of a Jew? Who are you that you would question the witnesses of God? Could there not be more than one book from God?

I testify to you, sir, that there is more than one, or the Bible would lack credibility and your “God’s word” would not be believed. Witnesses come in two’s and three’s. Surely you can remember that! I beckon you, Chuck, return your tired spirit home so that you may again find peace in the happiness of the true and only gospel! I wish you well, in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!” Continue reading Blind fools! Why don’t you all come home?

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I Bear You My Testimony – A Reply to a Mormon Testimony

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.:I BEAR YOU MY TESTIMONY THAT THE LDS CHURCH IS NOT TRUE.OUR REPLY TO A MORMON TESTIMONY:

jesuschristA MORMON BEARS HIS TESTIMONY:

“I respect individuals who are determined in their beliefs and their love for Jesus and his gospel, because I find myself in that same path. So, I hope that you don’t regard me as part of a ‘counterfeit Christianity’ by being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I know for an absolute surety that it is the only entity on this earth that has all of the saving ordinances necessary to inherit eternal life. To know Jesus is to serve him, to do as he did and to listen to his prophets.

I belong to THE Church of Jesus Christ. I have prayed earnestly to know the truth of the things I have so diligently searched, and God in his infinite wisdom and love shared His truth with me through the power of the Holy Ghost. Nothing can take this knowledge from me, for it is knowledge and not faith. I am past faith on this. Faith is hoping for things that you have not seen, but knowing is having a validation by the power of the Holy Ghost that what you have had faith in is true. It is validated! Continue reading I Bear You My Testimony – A Reply to a Mormon Testimony

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Why don’t you get your own testimony?

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.:OUR RESPONSE TO: “WHY DON’T YOU GET YOUR OWN TESTIMONY OF THE MORMON CHURCH?”

Chuck, you had a problem from the start when you said, ‘We just did it because everyone else was doing it.’ You need to have your own testimony! As a recent convert to the Mormon Church, I understand where you are coming from with how different the LDS Church is from other Churches, but that is because the Church is blessed with the priesthood and a holy Prophet of God. As a convert, I had the opportunity to take Moroni’s promise. I know that some kids who grow up in the Church overlook Moroni’s promise as they grow up and just do things because their families have a testimony of the gospel. Remember that when you take Moroni’s challenge, you must do it with an absolute sincerity in your heart. As I was fortunate enough to be able to know of the gospel, unlike billions who have been or are one the earth today, I started the unwavering foundation of my testimony. I know the Church is True and is led by Christ through our beloved Prophet. I know that Joseph Smith restored the True Church which stands today as the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, with sincere fervent prayer. I hope you can find these things to be true for yourself. The testimonies of others can only take you so far.” Continue reading Why don’t you get your own testimony?

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After Mormonism, what?

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confusedboy.:AFTER MORMONISM WHAT? What does an LDS person do when he or she breaks free from Mormonism?

You may be asking: “So What Do I Do Now?” You have finally broken free from the “herd” of Mormonism, but you feel hopelessly lost and without direction now…

HOW DID YOU GET HERE?

In the LDS Church, you were told what to think, where to go, what to do, and how to do it. You had your Church Handbook that was approved by the Presidency of the Church for your study and spiritual edification. You maintained faith with the Brethren and local leaders of the Church. You had been told to simply follow the Prophet and everything will be made sure.

You carried a membership card that got you into the temple. You passed your exams with the local Bishop, the Stake President, and anyone else who had been proclaimed to be an authority over you. You memorized all the songs since primary, memorized a few Scriptures from the Book of Mormon, dressed like everyone else in the Church, spoke like everyone else, served without reservations like everyone else. You were in fact, a living clone of everyone else in Mormonism. Continue reading After Mormonism, what?

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